2016-12-31

What is most effective material to block Ultrasonic Phaser Pain Field.

Post 304315 by good citizen deleted for the following reason: This question has some problems, contact us within an hour or so to straighten them out and repost. -- Eyebrows McGee

2016-12-26

Oh great. Socks. - horrible Christmas presents

Post 304115 by sexyrobot deleted for the following reason: Heya, this is pretty headlong chatfilter; particularly good non-bummer bad-gift stories could go in the happy holidays MetaTalk, tho. -- cortex

Uncle Sam needs YOU–now more than ever! - trump constitution electors

Post 304126 by Mike Mongo deleted for the following reason: I can appreciate the spirit of this thing, but kinda wide-net "just gimme your ideas" brainstorming about something with this kind of scope isn't really a good fit for Ask. -- cortex

2016-12-23

2016-12-19

Have you seen 'Privacy' the play? - snowden digitalmagic

Post 303935 by Devonian deleted for the following reason: Hey, sorry, but Ask Metafilter isn't for requests for private email answers; if you'd like to rework the post, please contact us within the next hour or so! -- taz

Is asking the religious to play by their own rules mocking them? - religion scripture

Post 303930 by hworth deleted for the following reason: Sorry, but this is more discussion / opinion fodder than a problem with a practical answer -- taz

2016-12-17

Relationships, marriages, co-workers, ugliness - other man

Post 303891 by rabbitfufu deleted for the following reason: poster's request -- Eyebrows McGee

2016-12-16

2016-12-14

Would this work? - Trump NeverTrump electoralcollege

Post 303764 by dances_with_sneetches deleted for the following reason: Sorry, including so much elaboration carries this over the line into "here's my idea, I want to have a discussion about this" side of chatfilter. -- LobsterMitten

2016-12-10

2016-12-09

2016-12-07

Since the election I feel like I've been raped. - trump support

Post 303503 by @homer deleted for the following reason: Heya, get in touch with us about the framing here. -- LobsterMitten

2016-12-06

Mandarin + Japanese 101: Retail Edition - chinese language languages

Post 303472 by Hermione Granger deleted for the following reason: Poster's request -- restless_nomad

2016-12-05

I feel like I've lost my Mojo - break ups

Post 303409 by blokefromipanema deleted for the following reason: Sorry, but this is repetitive of earlier questions -- taz

2016-11-30

What do YOU want for Christmas? - gift

Post 303214 by heavenknows deleted for the following reason: Hey, sorry, this needs to be just a little more focused to avoid being chatfilter -- asking for rec's from people demographically like the ones you have to buy gifts for is fine, but "make a list of things somebody somewhere wants" is too broad. -- LobsterMitten

Steve Bannon = Nazi? - Trump Stevebannon fascist

Post 303198 by His thoughts were red thoughts deleted for the following reason: Sorry, but we've been a bit overloaded with US election-related posts, and are trying to cut back on crowdsourced help-me-win-this-political-argument type requests in favor of more concrete how-will-X-affect-my-life questions. Please contact us if you have any questions. -- taz

2016-11-23

Acetylcysteine for Paracetamol / Acetaminpohen poisoning (no emergency) - acetaminophen overdose nac

Post 302949 by protorp deleted for the following reason: Hey, sorry, but the problem here -- beyond even the issue of "one shouldn't practice medicine without a license" -- is that even if you were to intervene in an emergency, doing so via the medical advice of random people online is even worse. Please check with your country's Poison Control hotline or info line, or an appropriate medical professional. -- taz

2016-11-22

What is it like to have a family? - doesnotcompute

Post 302926 by amnesia and magnets deleted for the following reason: Heya, sorry, this is basically so broad as to be chatfilter. -- LobsterMitten

How to stay strong and optimistic when you are lonely, tired, stressed? - Lonliness relationship children

Post 302914 by MamaBee223 deleted for the following reason: Heya, I'm sorry you're going through this, but asking frequent questions for general support isn't what AskMe's for. This is really something you need ongoing individual contact for, with a therapist or other person who can really support you. If you're needing encouragement today, re-read some of the answers you've gotten on previous threads. -- LobsterMitten

Electoral College Duty to Uphold and Defend Constitution? - electoralcollege 2016election oath

Post 302936 by Jim_Jam deleted for the following reason: Hey, this needs to be a question, not a position statement. Contact us in the next little while if you want to rewrite it. -- restless_nomad

2016-11-21

What are some "tells" that would out a man posing as a woman? - disguise culture

Post 302867 by amicamentis deleted for the following reason: Heya, if this is literally an "I'm trying to figure out how to write this scene" thing for a project you're working on, maybe give this another go that's much more specific about that; if it's more of a "just wondering" sort of thing, this is stumbling into kinda fraught territory about gender identity and probably not a great idea. -- cortex

Lighten Your Load And Go Still Higher. War On Christmas: The Gladdening - activist activism humanrights

Post 302861 by perspicio deleted for the following reason: Heya, I think asking about the idea of framing and pursuing a positive/activist organizational goal here is fine, but it needs to have a lot less concomitant op-ed sort of grar sentiment built in to be a good fit for Ask. If you want to get back to us shortly via the contact form to work out a rewrite, that'd be okay. -- cortex

2016-11-20

How do I make myself more unhappy to be a good activist? - trump activism

Post 302822 by colorblock sock deleted for the following reason: Hello, I'm sorry, but this is not right or okay for you. You are absolutely not required to suffer. This is a bit beyond readers' ability to help but please see your therapist as soon as possible as an emergency and show her this question. In the meantime, also check the There Is Help wiki. -- taz

2016-11-18

How Does Public Radio Lobby? - PRI APM NPR

Post 302793 by CollectiveMind deleted for the following reason: You've been asked in the past to do your NRP-related research elsewhere. -- Eyebrows McGee

2016-11-17

Disliking rap music is racist?? - racism

Post 302713 by mpark deleted for the following reason: Heya, this question is pretty much chatfilter and probably we should have nixed it from the outset, because there's really no way for it to work like a normal AskMe -- people are going to want to debate because it's intrinsically a debatey kind of question, and then will get angry if they can't answer comments they feel need rebuttals. Sorry for the delay in deleting. -- LobsterMitten

2016-11-16

Why is this not enough to call the election results into question? - russia wikileaks electiontampering

Post 302694 by StrawberryPie deleted for the following reason: Heya, it looks like this is using a spare account to get around the week wait between questions. -- cortex

People to pray for during Trump presidency.. - civil rights obamacare

Post 302689 by Captain Chesapeake deleted for the following reason: Heya, I appreciate the sentiment here and we're still in the wake of a pretty worrisome election outcome, but we're gonna ask folks to try and aim for somewhat more concretely-framed questions about this stuff. If you're looking for ideas of where to focus, this new MetaTalk may end up being a decent resource. -- cortex

2016-11-15

Steve Bannon at home interview? - Racist WhiteNationalist SelfDeclaredWhiteNationalist

Post 302640 by faineant deleted for the following reason: Sorry, if this is specifically about a thing you saw on Mefi, it belongs on Metatalk instead -- go ahead and repost it over there. -- LobsterMitten

2016-11-14

Trump's victory celebration party in/near Minneapolis - elections

Post 302628 by Kwadeng deleted for the following reason: Maybe your friend can check with other Trump supporters instead of casting such an unlikely net -- taz

Unique... Just like everyone else - Self identity culture

Post 302617 by St. Peepsburg deleted for the following reason: Sorry, this is chatfilter. -- LobsterMitten

(How) to swamp greatagain.gov with spurrious job applications? - onlinejobapplications politicalaction governmenttransition

Post 302610 by Exceptional_Hubris deleted for the following reason: You can't use Ask MetaFilter for this sort of thing. -- cortex

2016-11-13

What is the motive for the modern human? - Society history humanity

Post 302548 by AdjectivePanda deleted for the following reason: Sorry, but this is not what Ask Metafilter is for. Please have a look at the FAQ, and contact us if you have questions. -- taz

2016-11-11

Can I (or should I) hold people responsible for complacency? - politics activism social

Post 302516 by lightgray deleted for the following reason: Hey, sorry, this is really more discussion / debate / opinion material than something that can be answered objectively. More info here. -- taz

2016-11-10

A minor battle. - cancer

Post 302467 by vapidave deleted for the following reason: Posters request -- restless_nomad

Have you applied here before? Background check - application

Post 302431 by anonymous deleted for the following reason: This looks like a double, sorry. -- LobsterMitten

2016-11-09

Always Look on The Bright Side of Life - trump elections clinton

Post 302378 by brookeb deleted for the following reason: Sorry, I feel you, but this is too wide-open chatfilter -- taz

Pre-election Lawsuit Status - legal presidentallaw

Post 302364 by Jilder deleted for the following reason: Hey, sorry, but if this is specifically about Metafilter, please post this in Metatalk. If you'd rather just have this edited to make it a general question, please contact us, and we can fix it up and undelete. -- taz

2016-11-06

2016-11-02

Is there a way to get back deleted emails? - recovery

Post 302139 by rancher deleted for the following reason: We have talked to you before about not abusing multiple accounts on the site. -- cortex

How to decipher the meaning of acute engagement anxiety?

Post 302149 by ThomasJefferson deleted for the following reason: Heya, I'm sorry you're dealing with this but this does appear to be something where you're basically re-asking Ask MetaFilter the same question in slightly different shapes despite getting pretty clear answers to the previous attempts. You can't just keep re-upping like this; that's not how the site is meant to work. -- cortex

2016-11-01

What is living in Philadelphia like?

Post 302101 by OsoMeaty deleted for the following reason: Hey, sorry, as-phrased this is chatfilter. Drop us a line in the next hour or so if you'd like to rewrite it. -- LobsterMitten

2016-10-31

'ancient boundaries of Yorkshire quiz' questions - cryptic trivia

Post 302061 by kelster1 deleted for the following reason: Heya, it looks like this is a newspaper puzzle or something, which isn't a huge deal but it does need to be clearer why exactly you need to bring it to Ask MetaFilter for this not to seem a little weird and perfunctory as a question. -- cortex

2016-10-30

I acted like a heel on a web forum. How can I make amends? - writing webforums shamelessselfpromotion

Post 302045 by staggering termagant deleted for the following reason: Heya, if this is about Mefi you can post it in Metatalk or talk to us at the contact form. If it's not Mefi, that needs to be clearer, drop us a note and we can edit. -- LobsterMitten

2016-10-29

Best impersonation of Woody Allen? - movies woodyallen impersonations

Post 302028 by Mesaverdian deleted for the following reason: Sorry, but this is chatfilter! -- taz

2016-10-27

What went wrong here? - relationships dating romance

Post 301964 by schroedingersgirl deleted for the following reason: Sorry, asking others to read his mind or just generally riff on breakup texts is pretty much chatfilter. -- LobsterMitten

2016-10-24

Words for the dying - Death

Post 301846 by procrastination deleted for the following reason: So sorry to hear about this; asking is fine, but since it's a question about tracking something down on the site, it should go in MetaTalk. Feel free to repost over there, and let me know if you have any questions. -- cortex

2016-10-22

Weight loss clinic with phentermine and b12 shots - phentermineb12

Post 301795 by barexamfreak deleted for the following reason: This isn't really a question for AskMe -- LobsterMitten

2016-10-16

2016-10-14

Confidential Confidence - conversation

Post 301514 by miles1972 deleted for the following reason: This is too vague to be concretely answerable: if this is an actual legal question, that needs to be clearer (and kinda just needs to be a Talk To A Lawyer First situation if so), if it's a more general etiquette/ethics thing it still needs to be clearer what the reason for asking and context is. -- cortex

2016-10-11

Child privacy and online documents - confidentiality youth

Post 301435 by kanewai deleted for the following reason: poster's request -- cortex

In what language do you talk to cat? - feline speech

Post 301398 by sacchan deleted for the following reason: Hey, sorry, but this is chatfilter -- taz

2016-10-10

Losing attraction to my wife - relationship overweight weightloss

Post 301363 by Omnicron deleted for the following reason: A couple of problems with this, please contact us to discuss -- taz

I can't see Metafilter comments on my iPhone - iOS

Post 301395 by Mei's lost sandal deleted for the following reason: Hey, questions about Metafilter go to Metatalk; please go ahead and ask over there! -- taz

2016-10-03

What would you have done differently if you'd known you'd never marry? - lifeplanning singledom

Post 301163 by ziggly deleted for the following reason: Heya, sorry, this is pretty much chatfilter. -- LobsterMitten

A Viking helmet, maybe? - sleep sleeping bed

Post 301162 by Evilspork deleted for the following reason: Heya, sorry, this is just a bit too far over the chatfilter line. -- LobsterMitten

Looking for advice, found out my girlfriend has transphobic views - feminism relationshipadvice

Post 301127 by fallingleaves deleted for the following reason: A few problems here; please contact us if you'd like to discuss -- taz

2016-10-02

589 is your favorite number. - numbers

Post 301102 by allelopath deleted for the following reason: This isn't an appropriate use of Ask MetaFilter. -- cortex

Please tell me this wasn't a kidnapping.... - news notasinterestingasI'mimagining

Post 301101 by Jacen deleted for the following reason: Gonna agree with the thoughts below: call non-emergency if you want to report something worrying, but there's not really anything Ask can do here besides idly speculate about road-side scenarios we weren't there to see. -- cortex

2016-09-30

Newly minted parents of AskMe, what made you decide to have kids? - reproduction children choice

Post 301060 by Fister Roboto deleted for the following reason: So sorry for the late delete on this, but this is very strong chatfilter and more discussion fodder than a concrete problem that needs to solved. -- taz

2016-09-25

Why isn't Nirvana's Nevermind album cover considered child porn? - Social Sex Society

Post 300887 by 8LeggedFriend deleted for the following reason: Hey, this is more of a rant than a question, sorry. -- restless_nomad

2016-09-24

Mom's cat has cancer, Mom just had stem cell surgery + can't find out. - diarrhea stools stemcelltransplant

Post 300861 by Thanquol180 deleted for the following reason: Hey there, I'm sorry you're going through this, but from your deleted comment it sounds like having this open is not helping. -- LobsterMitten

2016-09-23

Tingling, burning & numbness in feet - pain wtf wtfwaittimes

Post 300842 by anonymous deleted for the following reason: poster's request -- LobsterMitten

2016-09-22

Can anyone do what you do? - work

Post 300780 by oink deleted for the following reason: Hey, sorry, but general survey/poll the readers-type questions are against the guidelines. If you have a specific problem you'd like help solving, please contact us in the next hour or two, and we can work with you to edit and undelete. -- taz

Accusations and lawyering in the public sphere - abuse rapeculture rape

Post 300813 by gucci mane deleted for the following reason: Hey, this needs to be probably tighter and less specific to be more of a question and less of a referendum. If you want to edit it in the next hour or two, drop us a line at the contact form. Thanks. -- restless_nomad

2016-09-21

How do I put a tally counter on a webpage? - tallycounter website

Post 300763 by Anyamatopoeia deleted for the following reason: Hey, what you have hear is an Ask question and a Jobs ad - they don't go well together. Go ahead and post a Job if you want (it doesn't have to be paid) - it looks like that will meet your needs better anyway. -- restless_nomad

2016-09-20

geeky chores list - geekychores housework

Post 300705 by missmagenta deleted for the following reason: Hey sorry, questions about "what was this AskMe thread" belong over on MetaTalk - go ahead and repost this over there. -- LobsterMitten

2016-09-19

Breaking the cycle of anxiety - depression stress mentalhealth

Post 300646 by winterhill deleted for the following reason: I'm really, really sorry things are so hard now, but suicide-related questions are against guidelines, and folks really aren't qualified for critical emergency advice. Please check out the There is Help Wiki (UK-specific), and speak to your friends and family for IRL support, and your MDs for qualified help. -- taz

2016-09-15

What was the last great Apple iOS software release? - iphone

Post 300521 by Peemster deleted for the following reason: Heya, this seems pretty broadly chatty and it's unclear what the actual concrete question you need help with is. -- cortex

2016-09-10

Marketing Filter - politics advertising sociology

Post 300318 by bad grammar deleted for the following reason: poster's request -- LobsterMitten

2016-09-08

Help navigating through new stages of loss & grief - Relationship break up

Post 300223 by MamaBee223 deleted for the following reason: Hey there, I'm sorry you're going through this, but this isn't really a question, and asking weekly questions for general support isn't what AskMe's for. This is really something you need ongoing individual contact for, with a therapist or other person who can really support you. If you're needing encouragement today, re-read some of the answers you've gotten on previous threads. -- LobsterMitten

2016-09-07

Best LDS Dating Website

Post 300204 by shahogen deleted for the following reason: This is not an ok use of the site. -- restless_nomad

The disposition for a career...? - careers personalitytraits lifechoices

Post 300200 by doornoise deleted for the following reason: As it is, this is super open-ended. If you want to rewrite in in the next little while, drop us a line - I think it's doable. -- restless_nomad

2016-09-06

Lynchian PC Game - VideoGames VideoGame Odd

Post 300139 by AlonzoMosleyFBI deleted for the following reason: Sorry, this kind of question (about a thing you saw on Mefi) belongs on Metatalk - go ahead and repost it over there. -- LobsterMitten

2016-09-05

How do I come to peace with the fact that I will never get married? - relationships loneliness

Post 300091 by sockiety deleted for the following reason: Please contact us about problems with this. -- taz

To block or not to block; that is the question... - Facebook blocking anger

Post 300094 by anonymous deleted for the following reason: poster's request -- cortex

How to ignore the "doom and gloom" when making a career change? - libraries mlis

Post 300108 by modesty.blaise deleted for the following reason: poster's request -- LobsterMitten

2016-09-02

The page is still loading, please wait to add favorites. - mefi

Post 300012 by hank deleted for the following reason: Heya, this is fine to ask about but being about MetaFilter it needs to go on MetaTalk, not Ask. (You can always hit up the contact form for this stuff too.) -- cortex

Flames... flames... on the side of my face! About Clue (1985) - cluedo movies movie

Post 300001 by Dressed to Kill deleted for the following reason: Heya, this seems like way too much survey slash "here's a bunch of stuff to chat about" prompts to make sense as an Ask MetaFilter question. -- cortex

2016-08-30

Speed dating in NYC - yay/nay? - speeddating

Post 299858 by unannihilated deleted for the following reason: Poster's request -- restless_nomad

2016-08-29

Finding time for marriage therapy - laws cultural differences

Post 299835 by tangomija deleted for the following reason: Hey there, I'm sorry you're in this very difficult situation, but AskMe isn't for venting or asking the same question over and over. If you want to rewrite to a new question, get in touch with me in the next hour or so. -- LobsterMitten

2016-08-26

No, I won't share the cost of your mistakes - china

Post 299753 by Dansaman deleted for the following reason: This is too much of a rant to work here, sorry. -- restless_nomad

2016-08-25

When you get to know someone and then you meet their partner.... - relationships

Post 299690 by sockiety deleted for the following reason: Sorry, this is pretty much chatfilter. -- LobsterMitten

2016-08-19

Who's a rising comedy star who deserves to get on SNL this year? - Television improv sketch

Post 299460 by rileyray3000 deleted for the following reason: If you're looking for comedy recommendations, that's fine to ask about, but framing it like this drags it needlessly in a chatfilter direction. -- cortex

2016-08-16

2016-08-12

Quick help with Photoshop

Post 299181 by wensink deleted for the following reason: Heya, "do this task for me" isn't what Ask is for. If you want to post this as a volunteer gig on Jobs, that's fine. -- cortex

2016-08-10

Is the idea of having a happy Marriage really possible? - Unions fidelity evolution

Post 299123 by sam3cat deleted for the following reason: I'm sorry you're having a rough time, but this isn't a question AskMe can answer in a concrete way. Drop us a line at the contact form soon if you want to try to make it less chatty. -- restless_nomad

2016-08-08

LeTip - news local chapters

Post 299058 by CollectiveMind deleted for the following reason: Heya, sorry, this has a weirdly spammy vibe to it, maybe get in touch if you want to talk about what you're after? -- LobsterMitten

2016-08-04

2016-07-29

Help me stand and sit the right way. - posture back exercises

Post 298714 by MeaninglessMisfortune deleted for the following reason: Violating the rules on the 7-day limit. -- restless_nomad

2016-07-28

How long would you wait for love, or the hopes of love for a family? - relationships baby

Post 298657 by MamaBee223 deleted for the following reason: Hey there, I'm sorry you're in this very hard situation, but this is essentially the same question as you've asked before, and that one is still open if folks want to offer thoughts in there. -- LobsterMitten

2016-07-25

I care about what you think of me. - superficial depression friends

Post 298573 by morning_television deleted for the following reason: Heya, I'm sorry this is frustrating for you, but it's in the same vein as other questions you've asked, and is basically yeah, more of a question for therapy than something folks here can tell you. -- LobsterMitten

2016-07-24

Will these political domains be worth anything? - domainames politics

Post 298516 by bdk3clash deleted for the following reason: Heya, sorry, this is sort of an imponderable question, where nobody has any better basis to speculate than you do. Also, I'm sure unintentionally, it ends up coming across a bit as an advertisement for your having these domains, which is something we want to draw a bright line against. -- LobsterMitten

2016-07-23

Former new parents, lend me your anecdata! - parenting baby family

Post 298474 by dissolvedgirl22 deleted for the following reason: Hey, sorry, but there doesn't seem to be a concrete question here, and asking for stories is considered "chatfilter" (see here), and against guidelines. -- taz

2016-07-21

Help me resolve this cognitive dissonance/find closure! - student faculty relation

Post 298415 by redwaterman deleted for the following reason: Heya, I'm sorry this happened, but we don't allow revenge questions on AskMe and this is uncomfortably in that range. -- LobsterMitten

Cat Breeder Switched Kitten - show registry resolved

Post 298414 by scarbo deleted for the following reason: poster's request -- cortex

2016-07-20

Hearing loss and alcohol - deafness

Post 298403 by Jason and Laszlo deleted for the following reason: There's possibly an answerable question here, but it needs to be set up differently. Please drop us a line if you want to rework it. -- restless_nomad

2016-07-16

2016-07-15

Starting a new life. Los Angeles. $300.

Post 298204 by frenchfryfrenzy deleted for the following reason: Heya, it needs to be a lot clearer whether this is "I'm actually in this position and need some guidance ASAP" (in which case it needs a bit of a rewrite before it's going to work well as an Ask) or "here's a hypothetical, go!" in which case it's unworkable as chatfilter. -- cortex

2016-07-12

Life Lost - death family purpose

Post 298067 by daveg02 deleted for the following reason: Hey there, I'm sorry; this question is chatfilter, as framed. I'm so sorry you're going through this. Be kind to yourself; grief is hard but it gets less painful with time. Let us know if you need to talk. -- LobsterMitten

2016-07-11

2016-07-09

Husband resents my personality when it comes to his family - In laws

Post 297962 by tangomija deleted for the following reason: Hey there, I'm sorry you're in this very difficult situation, but AskMe isn't for venting or asking the same question over and over. -- LobsterMitten

2016-07-07

Multi Effects or Boutique Guitar Pedals All the Way? - effectpedals

Post 297909 by Fierce deleted for the following reason: This is spam, and not very subtle spam. -- restless_nomad

2016-07-06

Lack of curiosity in a relationship - breaking up

Post 297855 by Jaspersen145 deleted for the following reason: Heya, there's not really a clear answerable question here. -- cortex

2016-07-05

Was the wrestling real to you? - professionalwrestling kayfabe

Post 297814 by clawsoon deleted for the following reason: Sorry, as framed this is pretty much chatfilter. -- LobsterMitten

2016-07-04

gif of a Mexican in a sombrero, psychedelic flashing colours? - image effect photoshop

Post 297776 by Meatbomb deleted for the following reason: Sorry, it seems like an unfortunate likely outcome here is for a lot of racist memes to be posted, which I'm sure is not what you want, and definitely is not what Ask Me is for -- taz

How to reconciliation with my fiancée? - Engagement Dating Relationships

Post 297774 by easilyconfused deleted for the following reason: Sorry, but this isn't really a concrete question we can help with, but more like your own processing of the situation. -- taz

Why do I keep attracting lame friends??? - crazy

Post 297792 by rancher deleted for the following reason: This is an awful lot of "here's details about how I think my friends suck" and not a very clear answerable question; maybe try to trim this down to something more focused and try again next week. -- cortex

2016-07-03

Does previous experience with another girl means she is bisexual? - female relationshps

Post 297759 by mbn1455 deleted for the following reason: I don't think Ask can help you with these questions about your relationships any longer. -- Eyebrows McGee

2016-07-02

Orthotic Sandal - Sandals

Post 297727 by Norm B deleted for the following reason: If you're trying to get feedback on a business idea or something like that this needs to have a lot more detail to work. -- cortex

2016-06-29

I think we're breaking up and I don't know how to cope. - Mentalhealth

Post 297586 by DeltaForce deleted for the following reason: Heya, I'm so sorry you're dealing with this right now, but there's not really an answerable Ask MetaFilter-type question in here as currently written. -- cortex

Why do individuals chose to stay in relationships with indifferent SOs? - fear breaking up

Post 297585 by MamaBee223 deleted for the following reason: I'm sorry you're having a rough time of it, but this is framed in kind of a broadly chatfiltery way, with you seeming to answer most of your own questions in the text of the post. If there's a way to rework this to narrow it down more to something concretely answerable, maybe give it another go next week? -- cortex

2016-06-28

How do you stop associating your self-worth with others’ opinions? - selfishness independence selfesteem

Post 297550 by rhythm_queen deleted for the following reason: Sorry, this is a variation on a question you've asked a number of times; better to take a look back at some of those previous answers if you need inspiration today. -- LobsterMitten

Why are so many black women scared of cats? - catphobia ailurophobia felinophobia

Post 297548 by Jacqueline deleted for the following reason: Sorry, this is really not going to work here. -- LobsterMitten

2016-06-27

Lidia Bastianich, Grandmother or Grinch? - cooking personality celebrity

Post 297532 by AugustWest deleted for the following reason: Sorry, this is a sort of weird question for AskMe as-framed, touch base with us in the next hour or so if you'd like to talk about a rewrite. -- LobsterMitten

2016-06-25

Rules for waiting in line with kids - Parenting

Post 297445 by Metheglen deleted for the following reason: This is kinda on the "hey I just want to hear some opinions about this third-party dispute" chatfiltery side for Ask. -- cortex

I Don't Want All Guns to Disappear - toxicmasculinity activism

Post 297440 by garry.smith deleted for the following reason: Heya, I appreciate that "not sure how to proceed" seems to be the core of your dilemma but as framed it's not really clear here what you're asking Ask MetaFilter to help with; maybe circle around and find a more concrete question at the heart of this and revisit it then? -- cortex

2016-06-24

1st beginner golf club?

Post 297382 by Sarah_M deleted for the following reason: Spam. -- goodnewsfortheinsane

2016-06-23

With the Pound dropping, what should I buy? - Brexit online shopping

Post 297375 by jjderooy deleted for the following reason: I'm afraid this is in taste too poor to get serious answers, whatever your intent. -- restless_nomad

With the Pound dropping, what should I buy? - Brexit online shopping

Post 297375 by jjderooy deleted for the following reason: I'm afraid this is in taste too poor to get serious answers, whatever your intent. -- restless_nomad

2016-06-21

Soy Candles are Perfect! - madison valley scented

Post 297303 by seanwheeler1969 deleted for the following reason: nope. -- restless_nomad

Why does my ex want to be friends but doesn't initiate contact with me? - breakup dating relationship

Post 297294 by plou3407 deleted for the following reason: Hey, this is a question you have asked in many different forms and across multiple accounts, and the answers to "why doesn't he initiate contact" aren't going to change. -- restless_nomad

2016-06-18

Denyse Schmidt quilting book - denyseschmidt drunklovequilt messyhouse

Post 297153 by artychoke deleted for the following reason: Sorry, AskMe isn't really for this kind of favor request; I hope it turns up though! -- LobsterMitten

2016-06-15

Severe Existential Depression. How to think positively?

Post 297056 by RearWindow deleted for the following reason: This is basically reiterating questions/complaints you've posted several times previously and we've asked you to not keep rehashing. -- cortex

2016-06-14

What do you do when a person becomes an anxiety trigger for you? - panic panicattack PTSD

Post 297030 by ITheCosmos deleted for the following reason: Poster's request -- taz

2016-06-13

Photographs so good, they belong in a museum or gallery but aren't. - photography fineart artportfolio

Post 296963 by captainsohler deleted for the following reason: Hey, this isn't for Ask as written. If you'd like to rewrite it in a way that would work better for the site, hit the contact form and we can help you. -- Eyebrows McGee

What makes you feel productive? - fulfillment accomplishment

Post 296989 by Baethan deleted for the following reason: Hey there, sorry, this is chatfilter. -- LobsterMitten

2016-06-12

Does the standing mat really reduce fatigue ? - work kitchen

Post 296954 by Daniel_Lin deleted for the following reason: This looks suspiciously like a set-up for spamming, which is a bannable offense -- taz

2016-06-10

Who Would Win?: A Grizzly bear versus five average ~29 year old men - fight

Post 296889 by TimBridge deleted for the following reason: Sorry about killing the fun, but this is chatfilter -- taz

2016-06-09

For the love of maude - monitor dell laptop

Post 296800 by sio42 deleted for the following reason: Poster's request -- goodnewsfortheinsane

2016-06-08

Are Chinese women in the PRC the most liberated females on the planet? - china woman sexism

Post 296764 by Meatbomb deleted for the following reason: If there's an more concretely, Ask-level answerable question than "generalization about a huge population: yes or no?" here it needs to be clearer what it is and to be framed less like "so I'm looking at all these Chinese women and here's my take" in any case. -- cortex

2016-06-06

Wife cannot have kids so why not polygamy? - releationship marriage

Post 296691 by wondering_man deleted for the following reason: This is not going to go the way you want it to. -- LobsterMitten

Et In California Ego? - Latin Alienation Drama

Post 296688 by Captain l'escalier deleted for the following reason: Heya, if this is a question about a translation it needs to have a lot less not-that in it. -- cortex

2016-06-05

2016-06-04

What is the effect of visual MRIs on modern Cartesian Dualism? - philosophy science cartesiandualism

Post 296610 by gantner deleted for the following reason: This really reads like a "write my essay for me" question. -- restless_nomad

2016-06-02

Insects behaving strangely - Pesticide behavior

Post 296524 by Mayhembob deleted for the following reason: Heya, there's no actual question here; contact us in the next hour or so if you'd like to edit. -- LobsterMitten

2016-05-30

Men remember ... Women remember ... - gender

Post 296377 by John Borrowman deleted for the following reason: Sorry, but this is chatfilter -- taz

2016-05-28

Was I right to end relationship with no sex - Break up menopause

Post 296320 by blokefromipanema deleted for the following reason: Hey there, I'm sorry you're still feeling conflicted about this, but we've talked about this a number of times, and you can no longer post about this relationship here. -- LobsterMitten

2016-05-25

What specific damage could President Trump do? - uspolitics apocalypse2016 stumpyhandedlunatic

Post 296167 by zeri deleted for the following reason: Sorry but this is chatfilter / debatefilter and not a good post for Ask Metafilter -- taz

How to Unlock iPhone 6 locked on iCloud ID Lock?

Post 296191 by kyletoress deleted for the following reason: This does not appear to be posted in good faith. -- restless_nomad

2016-05-20

Talking sex when in a relationship? - friendsofoppositesex boundaries relationships

Post 296010 by bengalibelle deleted for the following reason: Sorry, this is pretty much chatfilter. -- LobsterMitten

2016-05-19

Give me your favourite cover songs! - music covers

Post 295967 by Nightman deleted for the following reason: Hey there, sorry, this is broad enough that it's basically chatfilter. -- LobsterMitten

2016-05-18

My boss is a bully and treated me very cruelly/unfairly - How to deal? - mentalhealth work schooladministration

Post 295908 by chocolatespaghetti deleted for the following reason: Hey there, I'm so very sorry this is happening, but Ask Metafilter isn't able to provide competent care for your situation. Please check the "There is Help" section of the Wiki, talk to your therapist, close friends and family, and feel free to contact us if you need to talk. -- taz

2016-05-17

Could these anti-social sex strategies actually work? - courtship romance insults

Post 295869 by Borborygmus deleted for the following reason: Sorry, this is pretty much chatfilter. -- LobsterMitten

2016-05-14

2016-05-11

best book any library catalog number one cent amazon - amazonbooksonecent

Post 295618 by bukvich deleted for the following reason: Heya, if there's not something a little more specific to this than just literally "go search through Amazon for this weird pricing constraint and say what you like" it's not really a great fit for Ask. -- cortex

2016-05-07

Getting over inexplicable behavior from someone you loved - break up dating

Post 295484 by minoraltercation deleted for the following reason: Sorry, but this is more of a discussion prompt ("tell me your stories") and processing exercise than a concrete question. See here for more info. -- taz

Notate 16 seconds of piano please! - notation

Post 295479 by nologo deleted for the following reason: Hey, AskMe isn't really for asking people to do things FOR you. Hit the contact form in the next hour or so if you'd like to change this to asking for help in how to find the song's sheet music or how to learn to notate it. -- Eyebrows McGee

2016-05-04

Children of returned expats: Does the US seem foreign to you? - cultureshock

Post 295322 by A. Davey deleted for the following reason: Heya, this needs to more clearly framed around an direct answerable question—more "help me solve/understand/research x" and less "just tell me about yourself"—for it not be chatfilter. -- cortex

2016-05-01

Referral code for Hanna Andersson - clothing

Post 295213 by tangomija deleted for the following reason: This isn't a good use of AskMe. -- restless_nomad

2016-04-30

Any European males thinking of a USA match? - Expat

Post 295179 by Punctual deleted for the following reason: Not what AskMe is for. -- Eyebrows McGee

2016-04-29

How can I be good at having sex the first time I do it? - relationships dating

Post 295145 by Dynamo05 deleted for the following reason: Heya, I'm sorry this is a source of worry for you but this is substantially retreading ground from some of your previous questions and we need you to not sort of keep bringing the same thing around on Ask repeatedly. -- cortex

2016-04-27

How to create a link in an answer. - linking

Post 295069 by MovableBookLady deleted for the following reason: Heya, it's fine to ask this but since it's site-related the thing to do is ask it not here on Ask but over on MetaTalk, the site-discussion area of MetaFilter. Feel free to repost it there. -- cortex

2016-04-26

Full text of a 1973 "Boston Globe" article? - bostonglobe

Post 294990 by ryanshepard deleted for the following reason: Not a good use of AskMe -- vacapinta

2016-04-25

What books/authors have been ruined for you b/c of a past relationship? - ex literature dating

Post 294978 by Fizz deleted for the following reason: Sorry, this is chatfilter. -- LobsterMitten

PhD university rankings and industry jobs - college postgraduate career

Post 294945 by cestlavie deleted for the following reason: Hi, you asked the same question at the end of March and got a bunch of good answers there; this question doesn't seem to add any new information but is just a rehash of the same concerns addressed last time. -- Eyebrows McGee

2016-04-24

Jet packs, light sabers, personal smartphone attributes - personalize

Post 294920 by bird internet deleted for the following reason: Not a good use of ask me -- Eyebrows McGee

2016-04-23

Counsellor acting unethically? - abuse cps therapy

Post 294890 by Chaussette and the Pussy Cats deleted for the following reason: Sorry, this question already has a lot of the flavor of "amirite" - that is, building in the answer you want to hear as the only acceptable answer... and combined with the "for a friend" aspect, it puts the whole thing into unworkable territory for AskMe. Once you've asked several questions for the same friend, that person should get their own account so they can speak for themselves directly. -- LobsterMitten

Master Manners - transexuals grammar etiquette

Post 294886 by andrewcooke deleted for the following reason: Hey there - "transsexuals" isn't the best word to use here, and there are a few other issues with presentation - I've emailed you. -- LobsterMitten

2016-04-22

Does being a serious relationship mean that your partner has to know... - secrets relationships

Post 294859 by Dynamo05 deleted for the following reason: Sorry, this is a rehash of your prior questions on the same topic. -- Eyebrows McGee

Good books, hard to find

Post 294869 by maleru deleted for the following reason: Heya, this as written isn't really a workable question for Ask MetaFilter. If you're looking for resources or advice on finding affordable copies of books or trying to find a specific title in particular, a rewrite that frames that clearly rather than this sort of generally chatty feel would be okay. -- cortex

2016-04-21

I want to flirt online. Where do you go to do that now? - sex adult flirting

Post 294823 by anonymous deleted for the following reason: Strange - looks like this is a double. -- LobsterMitten

2016-04-20

No Lease Equates to Being Pushed Around? - landlordtenant

Post 294788 by Avosunspin deleted for the following reason: Poster's request -- restless_nomad

2016-04-17

LAW & ORDER SVU: Catholic Church Led Teen Prostitution Ring - catholicchurch

Post 294647 by lrnarabic deleted for the following reason: MetaFilter cannot be your outlet for this interest. -- Eyebrows McGee

2016-04-14

What do they call assholes in your neck of the woods? - groupnames

Post 294545 by Ghidorah deleted for the following reason: Poster's request -- goodnewsfortheinsane

2016-04-12

Finally Repaired my iPhone 6 Broken Screen. Is it original? - Part

Post 294466 by SamB deleted for the following reason: Spam -- Eyebrows McGee

I am writing a novel. It’s the novel I need to write. I need help. - misandry feminism apocalypse

Post 294463 by Dressed to Kill deleted for the following reason: OP, this question has a lot of problems -- it's way too many questions in one; it's borderline chatfilter. Contact the mods if you need help reworking it, but I think you're going to need to narrow it down quite a bit for it to work at AskMe. -- Eyebrows McGee

2016-04-05

When to feel guilty/shame??

Post 294194 by tangomija deleted for the following reason: This is basically the same as last week's question, and reposting like this doesn't work here, sorry. -- restless_nomad

...don't let it set in. - existentialism existentialdread dread

Post 294164 by Dressed to Kill deleted for the following reason: Hey, sorry, this is pretty chatfiltery as framed - if you'd like to talk about a rewrite, hit us up at the contact form in the next hour or so. -- LobsterMitten

Sell me your copy of "The New Essential Guide to Lesbian Conception"? - book single mother

Post 294189 by AlmondEyes deleted for the following reason: Sorry, classified-ad style posts aren't suitable for AskMe. -- restless_nomad

2016-03-31

Moving in together: Sword of Damacles style

Post 293977 by anonymous deleted for the following reason: poster's request -- LobsterMitten

2016-03-29

Portland photographers: Any knowledge of PICR or Vitaliy Rizhkov? - PDX photography middleman

Post 293870 by Strudel deleted for the following reason: Sorry, but this is waaaaay too much like "I want to have a discussion about this" rather than "here's my concrete problem I need help with." If you have questions, please contact us -- taz

2016-03-28

How fast would the boat need to go? - Weirdpossiblytotallyirrelevantquestionaboutaboat

Post 293821 by persona au gratin deleted for the following reason: Hey, sorry, but this falls into the category of hypothetical "what if" chatfilter questions we ask folks to avoid -- taz

2016-03-27

2016-03-26

2016-03-24

Measuring heights of people - human measure inch

Post 293685 by Otto Franz Joseph Leopold von Soxen-Puppetten deleted for the following reason: Sorry, this is like chatfilter and a half... -- LobsterMitten

Can you help me translate a paragraph into languages other than English? - translation medicalbooklet

Post 293698 by city_park deleted for the following reason: Hey, it looks like what you really want to do is post this in Jobs (which is fine even if you need a volunteer) - AskMe isn't the spot for translation requests of this scope. -- restless_nomad

2016-03-23

2016-03-22

Hiring Help to Script HTML -> DOCX -> InDesign - layout import

Post 293607 by Quisp Lover deleted for the following reason: Please check your Mefimail about a minor edit within the next hour -- LobsterMitten

2016-03-17

Mea culpa? - argument blame relationships

Post 293431 by LoonyLovegood deleted for the following reason: Sorry, this is chatfilter. -- LobsterMitten

2016-03-15

Penny-wise, pound-foolish actions by businesses? - marketing

Post 293338 by jbickers deleted for the following reason: Without a reason or context for it, this is chatfilter, sorry. -- restless_nomad

2016-03-14

Girl Fight - friends friendship stress

Post 293269 by rhythm_queen deleted for the following reason: poster's request -- cortex

2016-03-12

Can You Answer a Few Questions About Your Dog? - personality survey

Post 293208 by mulcahy deleted for the following reason: This is not what AskMe is for. -- Eyebrows McGee

2016-03-09

Do I need a lawyer, and how do I get one? - BritishColumbia BC Help

Post 293094 by anonymous deleted for the following reason: poster's request -- cortex

2016-03-08

I have only so much sisterly love to give. - selfcare emotionalabuse siblings

Post 293035 by Kitteh deleted for the following reason: poster's request -- LobsterMitten

2016-03-05

how metafilter works?? - question similar users

Post 292911 by msmryh deleted for the following reason: Sorry, questions about Metafilter belong on the Metatalk part of the site - you can post this over there. -- LobsterMitten

2016-03-04

a catalogue of regrets - mistakes failures

Post 292894 by a knot unknown deleted for the following reason: Sorry, but this is chatfilter -- taz

What does the judge say? (Child support when the guidelines don't apply) - childsupport massachusetts

Post 292870 by cogitron deleted for the following reason: poster's request -- cortex

2016-03-02

What's wrong with Obama? - trump politics election

Post 292802 by shaqlvaney deleted for the following reason: Sorry, I can see you tried to narrow this down, but the question is still so broad as to constitute chatfilter. -- restless_nomad

2016-03-01

Do Americans want a multiple party system? - politics elections us

Post 292743 by tirta-yana deleted for the following reason: Hey sorry, this is chatfilter. There are a bunch of past Metafilter threads about the two party system and alternatives that might be of interest to you, though. -- LobsterMitten

Praying for the Return of Tom and Ray - scionxb 2008 rearbumper

Post 292761 by 4ster deleted for the following reason: Poster's request -- restless_nomad

2016-02-29

Giving feedback to defensive boss - career

Post 292717 by Tamien deleted for the following reason: poster's request -- LobsterMitten

Foolish decision led me to a world of pain - flatmates friendship

Post 292696 by sockiety deleted for the following reason: This is a problematic use of a spare account based on previous conversations we've had with you about such stuff. -- cortex

2016-02-27

Does the National Security Agency (NSA) really care about me, really? - NSAspying computersecurity personalphonerecords

Post 292632 by BostonTerrier deleted for the following reason: This isn't really a clearly answerable question as framed. -- cortex

2016-02-26

I need a little help with a school assignment on Twitter (short survey)

Post 292588 by Bridymurphy deleted for the following reason: Heya, directly soliciting survey responses isn't what Ask Metafilter is for. -- cortex

2016-02-25

An apple a day something something - apples teeth health

Post 292533 by notned deleted for the following reason: Not clear what you're actually asking here - get in touch in the next hour and I can edit. -- LobsterMitten

2016-02-22

What Is Love - unexplainable

Post 292421 by jennyage deleted for the following reason: sorry, this is chatfilter -- LobsterMitten

2016-02-18

At what age is a man too old to have never been kissed or have had sex? - sexualinexperience

Post 292247 by Dynamo05 deleted for the following reason: Sorry, you've asked basically this same question before. -- LobsterMitten

2016-02-17

What private transportation do you use? - services shuttles taxis

Post 292224 by ErickClifford deleted for the following reason: This is blatant spam, you are banned. -- restless_nomad

2016-02-15

True Love? - unexplainable

Post 292123 by jennyage deleted for the following reason: Hey sorry, but this is chatfilter (and a bit of do-my-homework, also against guidelines) -- taz

2016-02-11

BetterParentFilter - parents parenting relationship

Post 291999 by barrakuda deleted for the following reason: This is pretty chatty to begin with, but it looks like there's an additional rule-bending thing going on here that isn't okay. -- cortex

2016-02-10

I'm not sorry, but thank you? - apologies gratitude resolved

Post 291949 by Toddles deleted for the following reason: This is borderline chatfilter - if you want to email us in the next hour or so with a rewrite that gives it a clear question to answer, please do. -- restless_nomad

2016-02-08

I want to know if this is reliable - medical supplies help

Post 291861 by brontaylor614 deleted for the following reason: This is spam and you are banned. -- LobsterMitten

2016-02-03

2016-01-30

It's 5 o'clock somewhere. - keywest duvalstreet conchrepublic

Post 291547 by Mike Mongo deleted for the following reason: This seems either unanswerable or chatfilter as written; if you can narrow down the scope of the question to something more specific and answerable, hit us up via the contact form in the next couple hours we can edit and repost it. -- Eyebrows McGee

2016-01-29

HOW TO DECORATE CANDLES WITH DRIED FLOWERS

Post 291475 by mayaflowers deleted for the following reason: Spam, banned. -- goodnewsfortheinsane

2016-01-26

Looking for help

Post 291376 by brontaylor614 deleted for the following reason: This looks kinda sketchy -- restless_nomad

Whether it is healthy if I eat every day for breakfast quinoa?

Post 291336 by marcin-13 deleted for the following reason: Spammer; banned -- taz

2016-01-24

How long can a sociopath pretend? - aspd personalitydisorder

Post 291274 by Chaussette and the Pussy Cats deleted for the following reason: This is kind of a weird mix of a nominal question and an anecdote and so comes off as not super clear what the goal is; if there's a way to reframe this with a more concrete question, that'd probably be okay. -- cortex

2016-01-23

Escaping a cult - cults escape

Post 291230 by intrepid_simpleton deleted for the following reason: Hey, sorry, this is chatfiter. -- LobsterMitten

Charter school teacher conflicted about leaving my job - career work teaching

Post 291225 by csong deleted for the following reason: poster's request, pending possible edits -- LobsterMitten

What Materials will I need to complete these house projects? - handyman building construction

Post 291242 by locussst deleted for the following reason: Hey there- can you list the projects you need help with, in words? Just jumping folks over to another site where your whole question is listed isn't a good way to ask a question here. If you can get in touch with us via the contact form in the next hour or so, we can edit. -- LobsterMitten

2016-01-17

Could Today's Pop Divas Take on the Classic Jazz Vocalists?

Post 290975 by justcorbly deleted for the following reason: Chatfilter -- Eyebrows McGee

2016-01-12

Is my playlist too childish?

Post 290740 by Dynamo05 deleted for the following reason: Sorry, this is what we call "chatfilter", in that it seems to just be asking for a general discussion about opinions, not for an answer about a really concrete solvable problem. -- LobsterMitten

2016-01-11

Please explain these MRI results in plain English as if I am 5. IKYANMD

Post 290701 by crawltopslow deleted for the following reason: This appears to be the lastest in a long line of abuses of the Ask guidelines about using multiple accounts, and of our good will and benefit of the doubt regarding same. You are banned, do not sign up again. -- cortex

2016-01-10

Science fiction book recc'd on MeFi, part of a trilogy? - sciencefiction books

Post 290670 by the sobsister deleted for the following reason: Oops, sorry for the delayed delete - because this is a question about a Metafilter thread, it belongs over on MetaTalk. Go ahead and post it over there instead. -- LobsterMitten

2016-01-06

Uber - who pays the piper? - SS employment

Post 290507 by Freedomboy deleted for the following reason: Core question here is fine but the don't-get-me-started-ish framing of the more inside is more of a personal grumping thing than an Ask MetaFilter thing. -- cortex

2016-01-05

Unfamiliar email in form autocomplete- how freaked out should I be? - pc security password

Post 290473 by Merzbau deleted for the following reason: Hey. drop us a line at the contact form so we can restructure this to not potentially be problematic for other people, thanks. -- restless_nomad

2016-01-01

3 months of dating, should I keep seeing him? - relationship communication

Post 290318 by missybitsy deleted for the following reason: Hey, this is more of the same - as we've said before, regular similar questions about the same relationship are not really an ok way to use the site. -- restless_nomad